It's true. Guys want one thing: ass. That's it. No joke. They will tell you it's not true. They'll be all cutesy, take you dancing, touch your face, whatever. It's all bullshit. They're clever, those men. It's just too damn bad I have personality and brains. It's also too damn bad I respect myself. I could be getting lots of ass myself on a daily basis. But, alas, I personally believe there is more to life than sex. As a Gemini lady, I must make an intellectual connection before anything else. But NOOOOO. My rack gets in the way of having an any kind of intelligent conversation with a male.
You can rely on this. I have a single mom who is gorgeous and has dated many men over the past 10 years. I have two gorgeous younger sisters. I, myself, have a cornucopia of experiences. Because of my eternal optimism and child-like joy, I've always thought... there must be a cool dude out there somewhere.... HA. It's become quite clear that it's all shit.
Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the physical stuff... but, my hell. What happens after? That stuff doesn't last every hour of every day.
What to do, what to do....
Maybe I'll join a convent.
But I'm sure I'll go back to my childish optimism tomorrow.
Thank you for listening. This may all be caused by the recent revival of Alanis Morissette's "Jagged Little Pill" in my car.
I am SUCH a Gemini.
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I can't stay silent on this one. Here's the thing. Though that is certainly not true, there's no way I can convince you. So I'm going to rant instead.
On some level, you are correct. Every guy wants ass. So does every girl. We have natural instincts.
However, to say that every guy wants only ass is just a tragically wrong statement. Though, I can see how it looks that way.
Our society, particularly our generation, has issues. Big issues. Big huge honking relationship issues that nobody knows how to fix. What's the problem? People won't say what they feel. Why? Its against the rules. They aren't afraid. They aren't shy. Well some of them are. But for a great majority, it's against the rules. Saying what you really feel, especially at early stages in a relationship, is a one way ticket back to the singles bar.
So what are the results of this problem? Foremost, dysfunctional relationships. Notice that noone DATES anymore? No, none of that. What you'll generally see with our generation is two people pairing off, becoming ever closer to each other over a period of months until finally something physical happens or someone says something to make it a romantic relationship. Its the asymptote theory of modern romantic encounters. Two parties get ever closer but never quite intersect. What's the bridge? Sex, for lack of a better term. What else is there? Otherwise you're still just really good friends. Because although you may connect on a physical or emotional level, you're still "just friends" unless something physical happens and you HAVE to talk about it. In the absence of conversations about such things, sex has become the only way to define our relationships as romantic in nature.
The notion of anything serious in today's world is a relationship's death knell. And dating, for some reason, has automatically become serious these days. Why?
OH I KNOW THIS ONE I KNOW IT.
Oh, because everyone's marriage crazy these days, and everyone thinks that "relationship" means "on the way to the altar". That freaks everyone out early on, no exceptions. So to preserve the relationship, potential for a relationship, or illusion of a relationship, we say nothing. Even if it tortures us. Now if we make out one night and we HAVE to talk about it? Yeah, something might get started then. Until then? Fogeddaboudid!
What else? Ahh, hookups. The opposite of the above. Since we can't satisfy our emotional and physical needs in the same place, we have our opposite sex friend or friends to confide in, cuddle with, share secrets, and then we go get hammered and hookup with someone in our friend's backyard. Of course, any thought of making a real relationship out of these is admittedly absurd, since for the most part there IS no emotional or intellectual connection. This is, of course, why we do it in the first place. Save the emotional relationships by not going romantic with them, because GOD KNOWS WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF I TELL THEM I'm INTERESTED. Meanwhile, go at it with some stranger you don't have to call back.
As someone who has been in a number of romantic charades where the physical may have been there, but bowed to the emotional and intellectual connections we had, I can tell you that it doesn't work. Girls today have come to expect a certain level of physical assertiveness from a guy because that's the only thing that differentiates a guy who has feelings for her from a one that just wants to be "friends". Sex has to define the relationship, because neither party will. It's suicide. As I said before, saying what you really feel is a one way ticket back to the singles bar.
Bottom line? The problem with guys is a problem of expectation and a result of everyone handling the relationship process with kid gloves. And it sucks.
So don't blame us, blame society.
You're right. You're totally right. I'm curious about who this is....
You'll have to forgive my momentary lapse of reason. I had just been through something a couple days before that really pissed me off. All I wanted to do was write something very simple and direct... and send it out into the universe (the web, apparently). It scratched an emotional and mental itch. I'm sorry if I offended you. Sincerely.
Of course we all want ass. And yes, it is society's fault. There's a game. A hunt. And it all has to go a certain way. You're also right about sex being the bridge between "friends" and "more than friends".
I know there are dudes who aren't out to screw with me (no pun intended).
It's just a damn shame that we have to guess what everyone wants, ya know? Is this dude asking me questions because he knows that's what women want but then is planning to sweet talk me over to his house later? Or does he think I'm interesting? That's all.
But, like you said, communication is missing.
Hell, I'll admit it's flattering either way. I'll also admit that there are dudes that I would rather them shut their mouths and just be nice to look at/mess around with.
Maybe it's my own screwed up experience with life. I don't want to automatically assume men suck. Because they certainly don't. I'm working on it. I know it's a problem.
Again, I'm sorry if I offended you...
I'm really glad you said something.
And I'll probably end up taking the post down later because I don't want to send hateful energy in any form.
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